was too far from family so I only lasted 6 months before I moved
closer to my family.
I was working as an IT consultant for a large company but my team was
very small, our client quite specialized so we needed a little extra
tech support. I got along well with my main tech support guy but we
weren't social - never went for lunch or coffee together or anything,
I don't even think we talked at the Christmas party. He did seem a
little more chatty my last couple weeks, I thought cause I was moving
so far and most of my co-workers were lifetime home town kinda people
- it made me interesting.
So last year this tech guy finds me on LinkedIn - cool, I wanted to
build up my contacts from that job, I may not have been there long but
I left with glowing references and they were sad to lose me.
Then he started following me on Twitter...
Then he tracked me down on Facebook...
I didn't think anything of it but it is progressively getting strange...
He direct messaged me to say Happy Valentine's Day, I tweet that I'm
craving chocolate and he Facebooks a picture of chocolate to me, I
mention being out dancing and he direct messages that he'd dance with
me... so I ask if he treats all past co-workers this way? He
responds, "only the cute one".
I double check his Facebook profile - engaged with 2 young kids.
He can't seriously be flirting with me from the other side of the
country? Can he?
What is he doing? Should I be flattered or uncomfortable?
Makes me think I share too much online. If someone were to read all
my tweets they'd know me pretty well. I vent, mourn, rejoice and share
mundane details of my life. Only keeping a few relationships private.
My instinct was to tweet about this guy but he follows my twitter...
I've had bizarre people crush on me in the past but this is new
territory for me. Should I delete & block his online view of my life?
Is it harmless? Should I just continue with the status quo?
5 comments:
I'm gay so I know what I'm talking about. Simply tweet or FB him telling you're flattered but not interested. Then cut all ties so you don't send mixed messages. If he requests to be your friend, ignore. It's probably a good idea to change your twitter account, too. It depends on how creepy you think he might become. Good luck.
The fact that he's engaging in this behavior while "engaged with two young kids" should probably tell you what you need to know about having a non-professional relationship with this person.
Ew.
Yeah, what Janiece said. Sorry.
I also agree with the three previous comments! If you were engaged and had kids with this guy, how would you feel if he was trolling the internet flirting with women from his past?!
Hm. I have a rather flirty Facebook relationship with an ex from 20 years ago on the other side of the country. I'm married and he's engaged and we both have kids. I really never thought anything of it.
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