The Web That Is My Own

She's quasi-dating someone right now, she says she's madly in love with him, he refuses to officially date her, just lets him mother her (he's almost 40 but apparently "still hung up over his ex").

This has been going on for the past year. She's desperately in love with him. He's considering going back to his home country. This is devastating for her. 

She's already got multiple children, loves children, is clearly very fertile, and is apparently extremely concerned that she could be pregnant. 

And here's where I come in. While this woman is a friend of mine, I know her to be manipulative. She's a good person but I can't help but wonder how much of this is the truth, and if she'd actually stoop so low as to "trap" him in a pregnancy. 

I hate to think that she would do that, but about a year ago she accidentally got pregnant by another guy. She had to terminate the pregnancy because it for some reason made her very very very ill and strained her heart. 

When I mentioned that to her last night, her response was "oh no worries, I had a physical last week and I'm good to go."

I looked up drug recalls this morning. 

There has been a highly publicized drug recall in the US, but none of what I read indicated the drugs had been sold in Canada. 

I checked Health Canada's list of drug recalls, nothing there either. 

I don't want to accuse her of anything, but it seems like she might be lying. And I don't know if I can be friends with her if my suspicions (which I admit, are horrid and not very friend-like) are true. 

Have I been reading too many conspiracy novels? Do 'real' people do this sort of thing? When does one say something?

But I felt fine washing off my makeup last night. I didn't even put any on this morning. I doubt he noticed. 

However, the one thing I really really really hate doing in front of a guy is get dressed. 

I'm not going to lie. I've got plenty of boob to work with. 

And I swear, the least attractive thing in the world has to be me putting on a bra. It is like watching sausages getting made. 

Some things just shouldn't be seen. 

As a young, married woman moving more and more into adulthood, I'm starting to notice that people (mostly older friends, co-workers and family) have a tendency toward getting all up in my business acting like they know more about me than I do.

 

I'll have conversations in which I say, "I'm not really interested in buying a house" and the automatic response is a knowing smile and a, "Oh, you just wait, you'll change your mind". Or I'll say, "I don't like children, my husband and I don't plan on having any and we're perfectly comfortable with that decision" and it will be met with, "You say that now, but you'll change your mind. I said that when I was your age, too." And, granted, I understand that I probably will, in fact, change my mind about many things in my life (although I'm skeptical about ever changing my mind on the child thing), and I also understand that there are people in my life who have been through more experiences than I have and may perhaps know more about life situations. It doesn't make it any less annoying, though, when the 10th person voices the exact same doubts about my own life decisions.

 

When did it become socially acceptable to blatantly contradict someone about how they feel? It feels as worthless and as petty of a statement as if my friend were to say, "Oh, I hate broccoli" and I were to respond, "Oh, you say that now, but someday you'll love it! Everyone does!" It's even more annoying when it comes from the people in my life who are younger than I am and/or haven't even yet experienced serious relationships, marriage, living by themselves, etc.