I need to make new friends, I need to find a best friend.
I have friends but I've realized that I am none of their best friends. When I realized this about my oldest friend, I was inclined to feel hurt, but I wasn't - just cause we've been friends FOREVER doesn't make us best friends - we have different interests, her best friend shares more of her interests.
When I think of all my friends and contemplate each of their circles of friends, there is not one I want to become a bigger part of, no acquaintances that make me think, "I should get to know her/him better."
So how, as an adult, with a busy work and family life and many solitary interests, do I make new friends???
3 comments:
OH MY GOD I was just thinking this about myself. My friends are definitely not my friends. I need to find a way to be better friends with the people who actually are. Even a coffee buddy would be nice to have.
I've been in denial about my non-friend friends for a long time.
I hear ya. I had a falling out with my best friend a couple of years ago, and while it's all fine now, the friendship just isn't the same.
I realise it's because we're both at completely different places in our lives and our friendship just isn't as relevant as it once was.
Taking a class, doing volunteer work or trying to meet new people from work may be helpful.
I just came to a similar realization about long time friends. Just because we have been friends for the last fifteen years doesn't mean we are best friends. And I have finally become confident enough in myself to let a couple of friendships go. Not that I told them off or anything, I just stopped being the one to initiate conversations. So many of my friendships were parasitic in nature and I am already feeling better for the decision!
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